我不需要你的认可，我需要你的支持. VUCA的悖论。
需要别人认可，就把主动权交出去了，别人的观点忽远忽近，忽高忽低，你会无所适从。所以不需要别人的认可，但是需要别人的支持， 来做你的事情。归根到底，你的生活是you between god， not you between others。
否则你有什么样的行动和意见，lead to 我就有什么样的情绪，我变成了机器人了(一段写好的程序），一按按钮，就启动了我的一种情绪开关。
贴一篇儿子英语课的预读理解。最喜欢的两句话。bring out the best in your in a way you never fully realized on your own. But if you can find a task in life worth working for and believe in yourself, nothing can stop you．
there is no decision to be made. there is only interaction with life in front of you.
VUCA ，指的是易变不稳定（volatile）、不确定（uncertain）、复杂（complex）、模糊（ambiguous）。VUCA的反义词是SCSC，stable，certain，simple，clear。它的底层假设是有一个SCSC的世界，比VUCA更好，这个假设本质上是不成立的。从宇宙的Day1开始到每个人的生活,这是一种分型机构， 没有一天不是VUCA的，人要随着生活的起伏共舞，而不是去在每一个维度和每一个层次去尽可能control你的生活。项目经理最大的创伤来源于此，用一个死板的计划去框死未来的事件，当看到和计划的偏离被认为失败，最成功的plan也就是拿计划去复制了未来，这是一种缺乏意外的projection，当现实无法超过昨天的想象力反而成了最好的项目管理，这是做项目经理的最最可悲之处。生活需要我们无法预料的波动，今天应该超越昨天的想象力，interaction with life in front of you. 而不是把明天生活装在计划的瓶子里，完全清晰的未来对人的好奇心和观察力是一种持续伤害，你今天都可以吸收所有的知识，明天变成了今天的延长线。所以今天你要找今天的机会，找到你今天要完成的task，明天你来找明天的机会，去找机会，不要问为啥今天和昨天不一样。
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Some people bring out the best in you in a way that you might never have fully realized on your own．My mom was one of those people． My father died when I was nine months old, making my mom a single mother at the age of eighteen．While I was growing up, we lived a very hard life．We had little money, but my mom gave me a lot of love．Each night, she sat me on her lap and spoke the words that would change my life, “Kemmons, you are certain to be a great man and you can do anything in life if you work hard enough to get it．” At fourteen, I was hit by a car and the doctors said I would never walk again．Every day, my mother spoke to me in her gentle, loving voice, telling me that no matter what those doctors said, I could walk again if I wanted to badly enough．She drove that message so deep into my heart that I finally believed her．A year later, I returned to school － walking on my own! When the Great Depression(大萧条)hit, my mom lost her job．Then I left school to support the both of us．At that moment, I was determined never to be poor again． Over the years, I experienced various levels of business success．But the real turning point occurred on a vacation I took with my wife and five kids in 1951．I was dissatisfied with the second-class hotels available for families and was angry that they charged an extra $2 for each child．That was too expensive for the average American family．I told my wife that I was going to open a motel(汽车旅馆)for families that would never charge extra for children．There were plenty of doubters at that time． Not surprisingly, mom was one of my strongest supporters．She worked behind the desk and even designed the room style．As in any business, we experienced a lot of challenges．But with my mother’s words deeply rooted in my soul, I never doubted we would succeed．Fifteen years later, we had the largest hotel system in the world － Holiday Inn．In 1979 my company had 1,759 inns in more than fifty countries with an income of $ 1 billion a year． You may not have started out life in the best situation．But if you can find a task in life worth working for and believe in yourself, nothing can stop you． |
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